Addiction Is Always There—How To Keep From Drowning In It

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Addiction Is Always There—How To Keep From Drowning In It

By Stanton Peele 01/07/16

We are recognizing that addiction is a regular part of life, and it scares the hell out of us.

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When I published Love and Addiction with Archie Brodsky in 1975, we received catcalls from my fellow faculty members at the Harvard Business School: “Right, love can be addictive—har! har! har!”

That idea is now part of the common vernacular. In her heralded new novel The Mare, Mary Gaitskill (through a character) describes her self-abuse, for which she turned to AA: 

My sponsor knew the way I had lived: Blank loneliness . . . scene after drunken idiotic scene, mashed up conversations nobody could hear, the tears and ugly laughter quieted only by the rubber tit of alcohol or something else. Friendship was bad, sex was worse, and love—love! There was someone who rang my bell at 3 a.m. and I would let him in so he could tell me I was worthless, hit me, fuck me, and leave. . . It was like being locked into a nightmare more real than anything until I woke and couldn’t really remember the details or make sense of it, knowing only that it was terrible and that I would do it again.

So which was her worst addiction?

The ubiquity of addiction, the idea that any powerful involvement can overwhelm, even destroy people—what are we to make of it? As I said in my book The Meaning of Addiction, addiction can only be made into a whole concept by considering the individual and cultural meaning of a drug, activity or involvement. An individual becomes addicted to something in a given cultural context because that object develops overwhelming, special existential meaning for them in that time and place.

Which brings us to the strange state of DSM-5, the latest edition of the psychiatric manual, which The Fix has actively engaged in explaining to readers. Let me summarize two developments in DSM-5 that trouble people, but which were necessary, even if they are contradictory.

First, addiction is never applied to drugs in the Substance Use Disorders (SUDs) section of DSM-5. How can that be? Because whether or not something is said to be addictive (say cocaine, marijuana and cigarettes) varies with changing attitudes. More importantly, no substance is inherently addictive—most users of any substance don’t become addicted (think of painkillers).

Second, for the first time in DSM-5 (although I have been saying it since Love and Addiction), things other than substances create addictions. Thus, strange to say, in DSM-5 the ONLY thing labeled addictive in the chapter “Substance Use and Addictive Disorders” is gambling!

Of course, addiction can’t be limited solely to gambling, of all the activities and involvements in the world! That is craziness. Addiction has always been, and will always be, with us. I entered the addiction field because I wanted a subject that would always be front and center—how right I was!

Paula Poundstone has a new routine—"Stop Flat-Screen Addiction!"—in which she states: “Almost everyone in this country is addicted to electronics and riddled with denial.” She says that kids are almost universally hooked on their iPhones and other screen devices. Only their parents can’t criticize or stop them—because they’re all addicted too!

Are electronics addictive? Do they cause impairment and distress (the keynotes of a DSM-5 psychiatric diagnosis)? They often can, as they do with children who refuse to leave their houses, do homework, or interact with other humans. Isn’t it significant that the two most horrible mass murderers in our time—the Newtown school shooter, 20-year-old Adam Lanza, who fatally shot 20 children and six adults and the Norwegian lone-wolf terrorist, Anders Behring Breivik, who killed a total of 77 children and adults with bombs and gunfire—were both hopelessly addicted to violent video games? Neither left their homes or interacted with ordinary people.

While we ponder the question of whether video and electronic activity is addicting virtually everyone in America, let’s reflect on a few disparate pieces of information. Marijuana is now legal in four states (WA, OR, CO and AK) and the federal District of Columbia, while it seems likely California (representing 35% of the American population) will legalize the drug in 2016.

Meanwhile, we are in the midst of our latest heroin scare—which now includes synthetic opiates, like OxyContin—the combined use of which and deaths due to have become rampant since 2010. But this doesn’t mean drinking problems are disappearing. Not! There was a 50% increase in past-year alcohol disorders between 2001-2 and 2012-13.

And are you aware of all the new designer drugs, one of which is likely to rear its head at any given time? Have you heard about bath salts—named for their resemblance to Epsom salts—and Spice and synthetic marijuana (a misnomer, but whatever)? And have you heard about new virtual reality video games? I wonder how people will react to those?  

What’s going on? As Archie Brodsky and I said in Love and Addiction 40 years ago, “Addiction is not a side-effect of certain drugs. It is a fundamental reaction people have to experiences that they find overwhelmingly absorbing, and that they believe they cannot do without.” It is, and always has been, a crucial mistake to identify addiction as a drug-based phenomenon.

So what do we do with this truth? We recognize that addiction will not and cannot be eliminated, and work to create people who are capable of resisting the addictive allure of so many things available around us, a universe of things that is constantly expanding. To imagine that you, or your children, will be able to simply avoid addictive involvements altogether is a fundamental fallacy—one, unfortunately, that is propagated in drug policy, treatment and prevention programs.

Here are three solutions I have proposed since writing Love and Addiction:

1. In Addiction-Proof Your Child, I indicate that we must raise children capable of resisting addiction.

2. In Recover! An Empowering Program to Help You Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life, I (writing with Ilse Thompson) argue for a mindfulness approach to experience that allows us to escape addictions, once begun.

3. As for policy, trying to outlaw this or that addictive involvement is simply madness, a misdirection that leaves us playing perpetual catch-up with addiction.

These ideas are scary. Do I mean our children won’t be able to avoid drugs—even as we prescribe more and more pharmaceuticals (antipsychotics, amphetamines to treat ADHD, anti-depressants) to children and teens and young adults? Yes, I do mean that. What about taking their electronic devices away from them? Really? What about getting kids on college campuses never to drink, even when they turn 21 while there and are legally able to buy alcohol?

There is no alternative to recognizing the universality of addictive experiences and creating addiction-resistant humans. We can deny this reality, as Paula Poundstone describes us trying to do with electronic devices. Or we can deal with the actual world of addiction, of lived experience, that we face, one that is not going away, but is expanding exponentially as you read this.

On a final note, I agree with the movement to reject the word and the concept of “addict.” My own emphasis, in my book with Ilse Thompson and elsewhere, is that people are not defined by their addictions, which are often time-limited.

On that note, let me return to Mary Gaitskill’s character, who leaves AA, begins drinking again, and dares to love—the redemptive theme of The Mare, where she nurtures a girl who comes to live with her and her husband: “she [her sponsor] had known me in the hard, ungiving way she knew herself. . . [but I now] knew: Just because I had been in hell, I don’t have to be there always. Love is not always a sickness. . . I have changed. I can trust myself. I love Paul. I love Velvet. I can trust it.”

Stanton Peele, Ph.D., J.D., is the author (with Ilse Thompson) of Recover! An Empowering Program to Help You Stop Thinking Like an Addict and Reclaim Your Life. His Life Process Program is available online. His book Addiction-Proof Your Child is a model for the emerging area of harm reduction in addiction prevention. Stanton has been innovating in the addiction field since writing Love and Addiction with Archie Brodsky. He has published 12 books, and has won career awards from the Rutgers Center of Alcohol Studies and Drug Policy Alliance.

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