The Inspiring Story of Two Mamas Getting Sober

By SoberSisters7173 11/23/20
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The Inspiring Story of Two Mamas Getting Sober 

We sober sisters are also mamas. 

We have three teens between us, aged 14, 15, and 16. Our kids have seen us drunk. They have also seen us sloppy. We wish we could erase those memories they have. We wish we had been more present for them.

Our babies are the most important people in our lives, and we love them so much. Still, that didn't stop us from drinking too much around them.

The truth is, we lost control over our drinking years ago. We’d make promises to cut down, to moderate, to drink when they weren’t around. And then we’d drink anyway. 

We'd drink a lot. It's not easy being single, working moms. It always felt like there weren't enough hours in the day; we felt like we were failing at life. So we'd drink to try to calm down the anxiety and to take a break. That's what we told ourselves, anyway. 

We deserved it - we needed it. 

We got by, but it got harder. It was awful to work while hungover. Parenting while feeling sick is always miserable. And the cycle just kept going as we kept disappointing our kids and ourselves. The worse it got, the more the shame built. So we drank to block that out too. 

All of our kids showed us that they were worried about us. We finally couldn’t hurt our kids and ourselves any longer. So we stopped trying to manage our drinking and decided to do whatever it took to stop and stay stopped. 

We can’t erase the past or get those years back. What we can do is show our kids that they can finally trust us again. We can be honest with them. We can teach them how to navigate life without coping with alcohol or drugs. 

Getting sober didn’t take away all of our problems, but using alcohol to cope with them is like tossing jet fuel on a fire. 

We both found sober support groups. When COVID 19 rocked everyone’s world, we started our own. We have a support group via Zoom twice a week. We have an amazing Instagram group of sober and sober curious people @the_sober_sisters. Most importantly, we know that we need to put sobriety first in our lives because whatever we put in front of it, we should be prepared to lose. 

Alcoholism goes back generations in our family. We're breaking the cycle, and we will never take a single second for granted again.

 

By: Tammie Cox and Nicole Murray

 

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