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How Do The Twelve Steps Work?
I’ve often heard it said in AA meetings that “I don’t know how the Twelve Steps work, but they just do.” I personally have never found that statement particularly helpful. Taken literally, the Steps suggest that we can be healed from our illness by accepting it, by belief in God, by taking moral inventory, making amends, practicing prayer and meditation, and by helping other alcoholics.
Apart from the fact that belief in God is not possible for many people, how does taking a moral inventory, making amends, prayer, meditation, and helping others cure us of our addiction?
For my own recovery to really begin I needed to understand how the Twelve Steps could work in my life, in a way that made sense to me, and that was in line with my personal world view and values. In order to commit myself to the Steps I needed to fully believe in them as a method of deep transformation. So, some years ago now, I made the conscious decision to study the Twelve Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) in depth, starting with the book, ‘Not-God, A History of Alcoholics Anonymous’, by Ernest Kurtz. This book is a detailed history of the AA fellowship and its Twelve Step program.
I then looked at the various approaches to the program of recovery, from the traditional viewpoint, including the books, ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’ (Big Book) and the ‘Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions’, to more liberal accounts, such as, Marya Hornbacher’s ‘Waiting, A Non-Believer’s Higher Power. By combining my understanding of these various approaches, with my knowledge of humanistic psychology and moral philosophy, I was able to interpret the original Twelve Steps in a way that was really meaningful to me. I could now see how the Steps could lead to deep changes within me and so became fully willing to believe in them, and to try and practice them wholeheartedly in my life. I could now also see how participation in Twelve Step meetings would help and enable me to practice the program, and that both “fellowship and program” work by integration. They are reciprocal in nature in my view and experience.
I will now give an overview of my understanding of how the Twelve Step program works for me:
By breaking down the Steps I discovered that they contained and encouraged the practice of various moral principles or virtues, for example: humility, honesty, courage, acceptance, compassion, forgiveness, and self-discipline, to name a few! These are embedded within the Steps via practices such as: self-examination, making amends, prayer and meditation, and service to others. These principles and practices are well established pathways towards behavioural change, emotional well-being, spiritual growth and character development. Ask any psychologist or philosopher.
The Twelve Steps have helped me to manage my instinctual needs - identified within Step Four of AA’s literature (and also ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs’), as material, emotional, social and sexual in nature – and therefore my emotional difficulties, in a healthy and more effective manner. They counter-act my dysfunctional, fear-based, excessive, and defensive behaviours previously adopted in an attempt to protect myself and meet my instinctual needs.
I have found that by practicing the Steps and participation in fellowship, I’ve been able to uncover my dysfunctional ways of being, becoming more painfully aware of the harm they cause myself and others. This process has gradually made me more willing to let go of them, and to adopt more helpful attitudes and behaviours.
The principles and practices contained within, and encouraged by the Steps, have gradually led me to becoming less self-centred (certainly a by-product of addiction, if not a cause) and more connected in a harmonious way with myself and other people. They’ve improved my relationships, my quality of life, and my mental outlook in general. However, this is a slow and ongoing process that I need to continue working towards. I’m by no means perfect and can still suffer from negative and insecure behaviours and attitudes. As is stated within AA, I seek “Progress, not perfection” on a daily basis.
I have come to believe that ethical behaviour is a vital component of my recovery from addiction. The Steps and AA fellowship both promote ethical behaviour. It is well known, and common sense, that ethical behaviour promotes inner well-being and serenity, better relationships, less harmful consequences, and more joy in life. I am therefore much less likely to want to escape by drinking or using drugs. Inner peace, created by ethical behaviour, is also a foundation of spiritual growth. Through the practice of the Steps, and the principles they contain, I have increasingly sought after spiritual growth as part of my self-development and the process of change.
Behaviour that is unethical and selfish creates inner disturbance, anxiety and resentments, a dis-ease with self, which can lead me to relapse. In general, unethical behaviour also brings us into conflict with others, which often results in harmful consequences for ourselves and them. Behaviour which is dishonest, harmful, or involves the exploitation of others, is fundamentally self-centred, and a barrier to both self and spiritual development.
Step Twelve promotes the ethical principle of altruism through service to others. Service is a common principle and practice of spiritual and character development, or in other words, transformation.
Service towards others also encourages me to practice numerous moral virtues, such as: unselfishness, humility, kindness, empathy, compassion, patience, tolerance, acceptance, courage and self-discipline. All various aspects of love, which is a healing force within me and those I practice it towards. Altruism and service connects me to my higher-self or better nature, or spiritual speaking, the God within me. It also connects me to others, and creates feelings of well-being, fulfilment, joy, self-worth and purpose in life. Consequently, it reduces my sense of isolation and separation, which are characteristically associated with the illness of addiction.
Service towards other alcoholics and addicts strengthens my own commitment to recovery. By helping others to practice the Twelve Steps I reinforce within myself the principles and actions that they contain. Service is reciprocal in nature, and I seem to gain just as much as I am prepared to give to others. “We keep what we have only by giving it away”, according to this aphorism often heard expressed in AA meetings.
The above account is only my own interpretation and experience of how the Twelve Step program, which originated within Alcoholics Anonymous, works for me. Take what resonates with you from it, but I would strongly suggest that you find your own personal understanding so that you can form an authentic relationship with the program and its various fellowships. For me, the Twelve Steps are not that mysterious, and I have come to believe that I do understand how they work in my life. I hope that you can find your own understanding too.
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