Discover The Movie That Speaks to Your Sex Addiction {In A Good Way}

By Maria_s-111 10/30/19
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Tears rolling down my cheeks, clutching my blankets with my life, the despair that was hiding deep in my soul was revealing itself to the sound of this movie.  The pain was immense inside me, but I would do anything to get through just this one day, so in desparation I chose a movie I thought might be distracting. Something intense I thought would be good, and then as higher power intervened and my choice was painfully healing. Not triggering, but raw. In all the good ways that kept me sober.

That movie was Wild, with Reese Witherspoon. And it made me search for others just like it.

A little bit about me, when I remove my drug of choice there is a demon pain waiting for me. I have been an addict of all kinds. Sex, love, pain, working, eating and alcohol. At different phases of life I tried to control my addictions so that I could appear as I believed I should be. Successful, fun and  great at whatever was important at the time.  Just the right amount of this or that to keep me distracted or feeling something other than what layed deep inside.

At the time I discovered a few healing movies, I just came out of an intense love. Simultaniously and without coindicence I found that my husband had betrayed me and our children.  I went quickly into an emotional relationship with a friend, and the passion was not controllable. This series of events spiraled me from the healthier seeming work and eating addiction into a love and sex addiciton that was quite overwhelming on a daily basis.

I learned in 12 step recovery and Alanon that many of us do cycle between different addictions at different times in our lives.  My good friend in recovery said to me, choose the one that will kill you first... and work on that. So right now with my sex and love addiction in new recovery, I will share this list of media that has helped me.


1. Wild (2014)

After loosing her mother and the end of her marriage, Cheryl Strayed decides to hike the Pacific Coast Trail.  This movie will take you on a journey and make you see what healing can look like in recovery. It's raw, real and very powerful.

2. Rocketman (2019)

Watching the evolution of Elton John, intertwined with his addictions and narcissistic relationship was a powerful mirror to my own life. I think many of us can relate to a childhood of being abused, and then choosing narcissists and addicts to love.  This movie goes through all of the spiral in beautiful, musical detail but it ends in the right place. 

3. The Impossible (2012)

If you have a family and you don't want to loose them due to acting out, this movie will slap you across the face.  So many sex addicts can make it work with their families with 12 steps. So much that I sometimes see more love and realness in their relationships than the average.  This is it if healing is feeling miracles, healthy love and grief.

4. 13 Reasons Why Season One (2017)

For me this started it all. A few years ago, just a click because I heard it was good. Unveiling how the spiral of sexual promiscuity can evolve from a girl's trauma. A trauma many pretty women have experienced, changing their DNA.  Watch it. Prepare for it. I won't ruin it for you.

5. Peanut Butter Falcon (2019)

It's an adventure story of a young man with Down syndrome and an outlaw, who find their truth along a unbeaten path. The subtle evolution from their pain to peace is beautiful.  Even though there is some objectification of the charector Tyler which appealed to my girl friends in recovery, the relationships that form seem healthy. Slowly evolving with powerful messages for everyone.

I hope you enjoy my list and my story as much as I enjoyed sharing them.



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