These alternate steps are for people who, for one reason or the other, don't fit in the traditional 12-Step program. I want to offer people a new approach if they are struggling.
Why? The steps of Alcoholics Anonymous were written by Bill Wilson to deflate the ego of the alcoholic. But many people need to inflate their ego a bit, at least the part of the ego we call self-esteem.
Others have a hard time with the God concept of the original twelve steps. These new steps were written for such people and can be seen as an beginning and end to your recovery experience, or as a stepping stone to the original [spiritually based] steps introduced by AA.
These steps are not just for addicts. They are for all people who want to CHANGE. Self-actualization is the goal.
Old Timers in 12-Step programs might also find these steps helpful if want something to do after they have been in recovery for awhile and want to change on a deeper level. This is common today, but I remember in 1982 I wanted to talk about self-actualization because I got the "don't drink" part, and people shut me down. They wanted the topic at every meeting to be the first step.
I am also sympathetic to the people who don't have an addiction but want a treatment plan to help them change. The following reasons are behind me writing these steps.
When self-help books are not enough;
When you need help to grow but don't have an addiction;
When you have problems with the God concept;
Always wanted to belong to a 12-Step program but had no addiction;
Never fit in anywhere else;
Need help but can't afford therapy;
Just can't do it alone anymore.
1. We admitted we needed help to change and we sought it out.
2. We came to believe that we can change.
3. We prepared ourselves for a shift in consciousness.
4. We listed our stumbling blocks with suggestions for overcoming them.
5. We shared with at least one human being the story of our road to recovery.
6. Expectations become wishes that we can surrender at will.
7. We opened ourselves up to new ideas and we implemented them.
8. We began to change how we think, feel, and act.
9. We made a list of people whom we had harmed and made material or "living" amends.
10. We continued our journey in recovery by diligently working these steps.
11. We find a balance between helping ourselves and helping others.
12. We forever adopt an attitude of positive thinking, and having raised our self-esteem we help others to reach their full potential
For a detailed description of how to work each of these steps contact Susan Peabody.
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