When I got sober in 1982 I could not wait to work the steps. I did, even though I had problems with the God concept at the time. Later, I wanted to work the steps again around my issue of trying to be a better person, but the original steps did not seem to fit. As a result, I created the following list of alternative steps to help me deal with my psychological issues rather than my addictions.
These steps might be helpful to others for the following reasons:
The steps of Alcoholics Anonymous were written by Bill Wilson to deflate the ego of the alcoholic. But many people need to inflate their ego a bit, at least the part of the ego we call self-esteem.
Some people have a hard time with the God concept of the original twelve steps. These new steps were written for such people and can be seen as an beginning and end to their recovery experience or as a stepping stone to spirituality.
Sobriety is not your primary issue anymore. Self-actualization is your goal.
When the following conditions exist:
Self-help books are not enough.
You need help to grow but don't have an addiction.
You have problems with the God concept.
You need a secular supplement for the 12 Steps.
You don’t seem to fit in a 12-Step program.
You need help but can't afford therapy.
1. We admitted we needed help to change and could not do it alone.
2. We came to believe that we can change.
3. We became open minded about having a spiritual shift in consciousness.
4. We listed our stumbling blocks with suggestions for overcoming them.
5. We shared with at least one human being the story of our road to recovery.
6. Expectations become wishes that we can surrender at will.
7. We opened ourselves up to new ideas and we implemented them.
8. We began to change how we think, feel, and act.
9. We made a list of people whom we had harmed and made material or "living amends."
10. We continued our journey in recovery by diligently working these steps when new issues come up.
11. We find a balance between helping ourselves and helping others.
12. We forever adopt an attitude of positive thinking. Having raised our self-esteem, we help others to reach their full potential.
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