3 Powerful Ways You Can Stop Drinking Alcohol
If you are reading this I am assuming you want to stop drinking alcohol and, if so, I comend you for that decision.
Even if it is not a definite decision and more of a fleeting thought from time to time. It is a powerful choice that you can make to change your life forever.
I know how it feels though. Life without alcohol sounds boring. Getting away from it seems impossible. The feelings, thoughts and emotions drowned out by it for so long feel too big to deal with...
It's okay. I know it's all very scary. I understand it feels impossible.
You are not weak, however, and it is not impossible though.
Are you ready to learn how to stop drinking alcohol?
I will give you fair warning that this is not a quick fix article. There is no quick fix when it comes to true sobriety. Sure you could not pick up that bottle or glass for a time. Stopping is as "simple" as that. What will prevent your from starting up down the road when life gets heavy and hard?
And life will get heavy and hard, my friends.
That is why work is needed to stop for good so that you never start again.
So if you want to learn how to stop drinking alcohol you have to first and foremost learn how to start NOT drinking alcohol.
Please keep reading and it will all make sense.
How To Not Drink Alcohol Tip # 1
You cannot find a solution to a problem without first naming the problem. Putting labels aside, you have to come to a place where you can admit that you lose control when you drink. It's okay to resign yourself to the fact that once you start you cannot stop.
You are not weak. It's not your fault. I know the helpless feeling and many others do as well. We still recovered though and it started with naming our demons.
Personally I believe there is power in owning the word "alcoholic" or "addict." Once you own it no one can use it as a way to shame and guilt you any longer. Once you realize it's just a word and you take ownership of it, it no longer defines you.
There is a lot of power and freedom in that.
Keep in mind that you are not to blame for having a "problem." Call it genetic, call it ancestoral trauma, call it a disease. It's not your fault.
However, once you name it you are then responsible for doing something about it (if you really want to of course) which brings us to...
How To Quit Alcohol For Good Tip # 2
This is the hard part. The painful part. The part of the journey where I highly recommend the support of a group or therapist or counselor and sponsor. Whatever it may be because now you will have to delve into the WHY behind it all.
I do not mean "alcoholism" or "addiction" by the way. We cannot hide behind the labels and words forever because eventully they are just excuses.
I mean the WHY behind those things. The grief, fear, resentments, sadness and trauma that has run amuck for so long that now forces you to drown yourself day in and day out. All of these things in your life have shaped you to this moment and they have to be flushed out and dealt with or you will never be truly sober and able to stop drinking alcohol.
The hardest part is that you will learn that much of this has been passed onto you from your family via ancestoral trauma. That is a topic for another time and there are others who are much more well versed in that, but in essence think of it as baggage passed down from one generation to the next. No one has ever dealt with it until now...
...because you are going to break that cycle. Right?
I began to understand myself and my struggles better once I began to understand my parents' childhoods and journies. Neither of them were alcoholics, per say, but I began to see addiction happening in different forms and it all began to make sense. I then learned about their families' journies and trauma and I finally was able to see the chain of toxicity binding it all together.
You will have to do this work too to quit alcohol for good.
It takes so much courage to go deep into all of this and that is why I HIGHLY suggest you seek support to help you with this process, but if you need some resources in the meantime please check these out.
- This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
- Breathing Under Water by Richard Rohr
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Now let's talk about the final tip once all of the WHY's are acknolwedged and being worked on.
Stop Drinking Alcohol For Good Tip # 3
Please note that I am not a religous person, however, I have come to believe in a power greater than myself.
And that is the third tip: you have to believe in something greater than yourself in order to stop drinking alcohol forever.
You don't have to believe in a god or "God." You don't have to go to church. You don't even have to use the words "Higher Power," but when worst comes to worst and it's your life and sobreity on the line...
...what or who are you going to lean on?
I always told myself I had the willpower to abstain from going back to alcohol, but after a couple of nasty relapses before I got sober for good on October 1st, 2017, I realized I had to concede to something.
I hated God (as I have come to understand her/him/it to be) when my first journey began and I could not even say the three letter word. I asked my best friend who was sober what I was going to do if I did not believe in God and he told me...
"Clark, if you believe in the power it takes to turn a light bulb on then that is your higher power. It's not about an entity, deity or religous figure. It's just about something bigger than you that you can talk to or turn to instead of alcohol."
So when it came down to my life versus alcohol I decided to open myself up to the possibility that there was something greater than myself at work. And that is when the real change began and the desire to drink started going away.
Isn't your life worth considering that possibility as well?
I hope so because it really can make the difference between short term sobriety and a life time of freedom from alcohol.
How To Stop Drinking Alcohol In Closing
So there you have it, my friends. Three tips that are really just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to figuring out how to stop drinking alcohol forever.
I will reiterate, like I always do, that this journey does not have to happen alone and there are plenty of support groups out there (both AA and non-AA) where you will find a community who understands. There are grief counselors, spiritual guides, therapists and doctors that can aid in your journey if you have the courage to ask for help.
In the meantime I hope this article helped point you in the right direction and, at the very least, I hope you will check out some of the resources I mentioned.
I appreciate your time and I hope you'll come find me on any and/or all of my social media platforms so we can continue this sober journey toghether. All of those can be found via my Linktree Link.
Much love & life to you!
Bio: Clark Webb's mission is to help everyone live a fearless, authentic and impeccable life by focusing on being the best they can be in mind, body and spirit. He posts regular content on his YouTube Channel as well as his Blog: The Fail that he hopes will give everyone the tips, tools and insight needed to live their best life. He is first and foremost a parent and because of that honor feels compelled to not only guide his son towards an amazing life, but anyone else that wants to come along for the ride. Are you ready to live a fearless authentic life? If so, join him here!