How My Daughter Got Sober

By Amethyst Recovery 11/14/16

Amethyst was different, the way they treated me and made everything so seamless; they had everything I knew my daughter needed.

A mother and daughter embracing.

Oftentimes we hear the perspective of the person who gets sober but don’t always know how it impacted their loved ones, people who might have initiated and/or witnessed the process. We recently spoke to the mother of a young woman who sought treatment for drug addiction at Amethyst Recovery Center in Port St. Lucie, Florida. This is her story: 

Formative Years

My daughter started being rebellious around 12 or 13. I was going through a divorce and didn’t have as many eyeballs on my children as I should have. She went a little wild and started smoking cigarettes. That led to pot; pot led to pills. Luckily she graduated high school but as soon as she turned 18, she left my house. She didn’t want to follow rules, and after she started doing pills, she moved onto harder stuff—always in and out of trouble. There were always some emotional issues. She didn’t fit in and was on the heavy side. She had a sister who she was close with but the total opposite: always skinny; always good-looking; guys always wanted her. Not that my other daughter was ugly or the opposite of all that but she was always in her sister’s shadow. I think that caused a lot of emotional distress and made her feel like an ugly duckling even though to me she is the most beautiful person in the world. She’s very book smart but naïve and always wanted to fit in and was very gullible because of that.

Bad Influences

She met a guy who became her boyfriend. His family was involved with manufacturing meth so they started selling it to make ends meet, then she started smoking it. It wasn’t like pills and pot, where she was doing it but still had control. This was different. I could tell she was gone—she could not make a right decision to save her life. This family that had taken her in was basically using her and warping her mind. I really noticed a difference. She had cut off all contact with her family, was very angry and mean all the time, in and out of trouble even worse than before—a big downhill spiral. She would not listen to me or anyone else in our family. That was when I knew I had to get help from the courts.

Seeking Help

I filed for Casey’s Law and in the process you have to pick a treatment facility (if you win). I think I committed to two or three facilities before Amethyst but each time something didn’t feel right. A few days before our final court date, I had gotten in contact with Amethyst—the name had come up somewhere and I thought, I’m going to give this one more shot. I called them and almost from the beginning I knew it was different. The way they treated me and made everything so seamless; they had everything I knew my daughter needed. I knew she needed a dual diagnosis facility. I knew she needed to be as far away from our hometown of Louisville as possible, so she couldn’t make arrangements or have someone pick her up. I wanted her to be somewhere I would like to be and I’ve always liked being around the ocean. They bent over backwards and helped me get her there.

Committing To Treatment

When my daughter was there, they were always informative. I was a million miles away. I never went to visit because I couldn’t afford it but they were very good about keeping me involved and informed, Facetiming and doing consultation and counseling over the phone. My insurance covered more than a lot of people’s but it still didn’t cover what I expected. When someone is in that situation, they need long-term care. Insurance covered six months and then they wouldn’t pay anymore. At that time, Amethyst had told my daughter they were going to release her and she was free to do what she wanted. I contacted one of the owners and told him my concern. She couldn’t come back to my house—if she came back here, she had nowhere to go and would pick back up with the same people. According to court order, they could keep her up to a year. I explained I thought we should utilize that to fullest effect and keep her there at least a year. They offered to scholarship her so she stayed for another six months. She continued her counseling and meetings and then she had to come home for court. She’s been here ever since. She went to treatment at the end of July of 2015 so this past July was her one-year sobriety mark. Now she’s coming up on a year and a half.

Life in Recovery

She’s doing well and still goes to meetings. She has stayed away from the drug crowd and that type of lifestyle and I think a big part of that is Amethyst and the treatment she got there. Her self-worth is significantly higher. She’s overcome a lot and continues to live a clean life every day. It might be a little work but she learned a lot about what you can and can’t do. You have to continue to work a program and she has. We haven’t found her a good therapist here yet but we’re still working on that. She’s got a number of people at Amethyst that she speaks highly of—a couple of therapists there she still keeps in contact with. She really enjoys NA and AA meetings but works AA the most. She made a lot of genuine friends in treatment. Amethyst is big on adventure therapy and although she preferred to not do a lot of the water-related activities, she loved everything else.

I would definitely recommend Amethyst. I want people here to know there are other good facilities far away. Sometimes you need to get away from your environment. My daughter’s never been to another facility to compare it to but she’s kind of unique in that situation. I think the industry is changing. They’re realizing people need longer care. That was why I pushed it with my insurance and with her and making sure she stayed as long as possible—I think that has something to do with why she hasn’t relapsed.

She just turned 25. Some days she feels like she lost years of her life—all she did was drugs and trouble. Now that she’s not doing that, she says, “I need to figure out what I want to be.”

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