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Should Sober People Date Non-Sober People?

By Jane Velez-Mitchell 08/09/12

Jane Velez-Mitchell answers a reader's question on whether she would ever date a social drinker.

Q: Would you as a recovering alcoholic ever date someone who is not sober?

[Jane is now exclusively fielding your questions about addiction, recovery and the like. Send your questions to [email protected].]

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Jane Velez-Mitchell

Jane Velez-Mitchell is a television and social media journalist and author. She is the founder of JaneUnChained, a digital news network for animal rights and the vegan lifestyle. You can find Jane on Linkedin or follow her on Twitter.

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