Lindsay Lohan's Father Comes Clean
(page 3)Do you pray?
Every morning and every night. I have a bible in every room of my house—in my bathroom, next to my bed.
You recently tweeted: “Marriage and children have three things in common: they bring happiness and grief but they also bring tears.” A lot of your family drama has played out in the public eye. What’s the status with you and Dina?
Dina and I were on the phone this morning. I was on speakerphone in the car. And [people in the car] were like, “My God, you guys are that friendly?”
From the time Lindsay did The Parent Trap right until the pinnacle of her career, doing Mean Girls, did you ever see or hear a negative thing about Dina or I? Did you even know who we were?
You are friendly?
Yeah, but the problem is, even though we are, Dina won’t tell the kids that we even talk. I don’t know what the problem is. She’s coming to the city tomorrow, and she said. “I need money for Cody’s lacrosse.” And I said, “How much?” And she said, “$600,” and I said, “Okay, fine, I’ll bring it tomorrow.” She goes, “I’ll be with my brother, I don’t think that’s a good idea.” And I’m like, “Why does it matter if you’re with your brother or not? Why do you let them dictate your life?” We have four children who need their mother and father. And her brother is the guy who robbed the 9/11 victims fund for a million dollars. And he did a year in federal prison because he ratted on everybody. And now, he’s out there, involved in Dina’s life again. He’s out in the Hamptons going, “Hey I’m Lindsay Lohan’s uncle.” And he changed his last name—it’s not Sullivan anymore, because everyone knows what he did, so now he goes by Paul Anthony. That’s a big problem with addiction and with children. If you look at statistics, most kids that are products of divorce become addicts in some way. Because it’s like a broken heart syndrome—kids are torn apart. They love their mom and dad, but they’re being pulled to both sides, and it puts a crack in their heart and they fill it with all the wrong things. If parents just focus on their own issues and keep the kids out of it, and don’t let other people get involved or influence them, their kids have a much better change of living a happy and sober life.
Do you think you’re making it harder for your family that everything has been so public? You’re doing this show, you do tons of interviews…
Let me make a point. From the time Lindsay did The Parent Trap right until the pinnacle of her career, doing Mean Girls, did you ever see or hear a negative thing about Dina or I? Did you even know who we were?
No but the tabloid culture now is so much more ravenous and so much more prevalent now. Back then, you didn’t even know about anybody’s personal life.
It was still out there. But my point is that after the divorce and when everything started to unravel, that’s when it got messy. And when there are divorce papers filed and people saying horrible things, you have to defend yourself. I never wanted to say anything.
But you didn’t want to be silent?
I didn’t know then what I know now. I didn’t know if I just shut my mouth and took the brunt of it that it would’ve been water off a duck’s back and wouldn’t really affect me. My pride got in the way, and it hurt not only me but also my family. For my parents, if my dad was alive, God rest his soul, to have these…it affects your family, and that’s one thing I don’t stand for. That’s when I get really pissed off.
Do you have any regrets about things you’ve said to the press in the past?
It’s a laundry list. I’m not gonna B.S. Of course I do. There’s no excuse for doing that whatsoever; I can’t take it back. All I can do is not do it again and I haven’t. Until I went to family therapy at Betty Ford with Lindsay and she sat down and opened her heart to me, which lead me to say, “You know what? I need to do this myself.” And then when they asked me to, by the grace of God, they called me and asked me to be on Celebrity Rehab, that was really it—it was a Godsend. My father was hard on me when I was a kid—really hard—and that hurt. That damaged me.
In what way was he hard on you?
Trust and betrayal. And that led me to drink and use because I felt like I was betrayed. Everyone has a predisposition. Let’s look at this—a mother and a father—one’s a drug addict, one’s an alcoholic—have four kids: only one becomes an alcoholic. Why don’t the other three? I’ll tell you why—and Dr. Drew helped me realize this. Because something happened in that kid’s life that made it happen. Some trauma. Some kids can handle it and some people just can’t. With Lindsay…usually it’s the one with the very, very good heart that can’t handle it, because they just don’t know how to handle these emotions. They’re like, “I can’t take this, give me something, I don’t want to feel this, I don’t want to deal with it,” and that’s what happens.